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  • Summer Reflections and TRUST in the Universe

    Dear all,

    I am sending you much love and many blessings wherever you are in the world trusting you are enjoying your summer just as much as I do.

    I love this time of the year.

    For me it is about creating space for

    • reflections of what was,
    • introspections of what is
    • and co-creation for what will be

    Before the new school year it seems like a good time to take a step back and evaluate the intentions from the New Year.

    From a place of engaged presence, from the NOW, I am allowing my mind to gently recall all the experiences that have served me to raise the vibration of my Higher Self, bringing me closer to alignment and inner harmony.

    It is important not to ignore but welcome the challenging and painful ones and be completely honest with yourself. There is no right or wrong, there is only what is TRUE for you.

    I create room do this practice in a safe and beautiful environment preferably in solitude, without judgment and in complete acceptance of what is.

    This last 6 months for me have been about acceptance, flexibility and co-creation.  

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  • Part Two. Energetic Detox: Environment Cleanse, Digital Detox & Relationship Fasting

    Environment Cleanse

    Everything is energy. Everything is a certain vibration, a frequency. Too often in today’s society, just as in our intestines there is too much garbage, to much stuffed and stiff energy just lying around.

    If you have heard of Marie Kondo’s method, you know what I mean. I usually start with your bathroom.

    All those half used cream and toothpaste tubes, and the shampoo that has been sitting there for a while, so one day you might use it. Believe me, you won’t.

    Think about your closet. What do you wear with joy and excitement and what do you only keep because it was a present from mom or “was really expensive”. Do you really need all this stuff? Go through the draws and do a radical cleansing.

    Sell it, gift it, give it away to people in need. Your wallet, your car, your garage, your cellar – step by step. Believe me, you will feel 20 kg energetically lighter and more energized. Open your window to let fresh air in.

     

    Relationship Fasting

    Now its time to think about not only what ‘s in you and around you but also WITH you. Think about relationships that might need a review.

    Who are the people tat lift you up and give you energy? And are there any vampires around you that suck your energy up and leave you drained and life-less?My grandmother used to say: Some relationships have expiration dates. What are these relationships for you?Consciously choose your interactions and create energetic boundaries.

    Every time I go out of the house I clothe myself in a energetic coat of light.  Just to keep my inner light glowing wherever I am going. You can imagine yourself in a light coat or just visualize a light bulb around you-It’s very helpful.

    However when you feel someone negative in your energetic field that you are in contact, don’t automatically go into protection mode or “run away”. These are actually opportunities to hold your vibration and not let negativity get over and drain you but “make the other person rise” though love.

    Let me explain with one of my favorite authors Thaddeus Golas from his book “The Lazy Man’s guide to enlightenment”

    “if you are faced with such (negative) behavior (from other around you), the remedy is to keep on out-flowing love, to have no resistance in your mind. The lower vibrating person may reach farther and farther to bring you down, but when he finds you will not come down, when he senses that you have no internal resistance to him, he will have to rise to your vibration level to feel stable and comfortable, it is too painful to stay where he is. And he will rise unless of course he goes the other way, and disintegrates from the relationship.

    You are not, however, obliged to wait him out: if you sense that he is not going to do anything but try to bring you down, you are free to effect the disintegration when you choose. In current language, just split. Don’t dwell on it, and don’t feel guilty about it. It’s in the natural order of things.”

    You see it is all about energetic vibrations and we always have free will to hold our own light filled vibration or to “disintegrate”.

    My teacher Sonia always says, it’s good to care, but don’t carry.

     

    Digital Detox

     Last but not least: The Digital Cleanse. As you can imagine I am writing this from a computer, so I am not fully away from the great technologies of this world.:-) However I felt a real difference in leaving my phone in the room and going for long walks and classes without constantly checking my messages, FB or Instagram you name it.

    I feel lighter, more connected and happier. In today’s world, our phones are almost the extension of our arms.

    In Japan, a book came our recently with the title: I wish I was my momy’s cell phone”. It made me think of my own children. This is how they perceive us. This phone in our hands is always with us…so it has to have a tremendous importance, right?

    Well it does have many functions, and yet it often takes us away from the present moment and from what is truly important to us. I encourage you to try out a phone free afternoon and just see how you feel. Can you be without it and without checking on news, sms and social media? How free are you? Find the freedom within and let go of whatever it is that doesn’t serve you.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Cleansing, Detoxing, Letting go – The importance of energetic clearing on all levels

    For some time I have been wanting to bring more awareness to my body, its functioning and the ways I can nourish it in ways of that are energizing and enjoyable.

    After two children my body was sending strong signs of fatigue and as I was running my coaching, facilitation, retreat business on high speed I knew I needed to make sure my batteries are filled with the best possible fuel to be of service to my family and clients. It is all about Energy-management, isn’t? And the body never lies.

    But before letting any fuel in, I was wondering what potentially was blocking my system and what needed to be cleared.

    Today I am writing to you from beautiful German Bavaria where I am spending a week doing a medical health spa retreat around detoxification and cleansing my system on all levels. It’s a subtle, peaceful place surrounded by mountains and silence.The moment I got here I felt an instant energetic boost. The fresh air and the calm are such contrast to our too polluted and fast-pasted cities.

    When I was asked what my intention for this week was I said:

    “It’s the time of clearing everything out that does not serve me and letting in the New and the True.” The doctor smiled. This is exactly what we do here.

    I believe a holistic clearing on many levels simultaneously.

    • Detox and cleansing of the body is the first evident portal.
    • But how about an emotional and mental cleanse?
    • What about your surroundings and energetic garbage in your house?
    • And what about consciously purifying your relationships and interactions with other people?

    It is all interrelated and It is like emptying the dirty trash that has been lying around for a while stinking and creating space for a new fresh breeze of air in the whole house, literarily and metaphorically.

     Your Body

    This is your home, your space. You take your body wherever you go. As a spiritual being you are grounded in a physical body that needs you care and attention. In Germany they say: Home isn’t only a space. It’s a feeling. So how do you feel in your physical body?

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  • Remembering the Essence of who YOU are

    A couple of weeks ago when I was travelling to India for a wedding I had a lovely conversation with the taxi driver.

    I love connecting with the locals and ask them about what moves them, what brings them joy and what they feel holds them back. In about 5 minutes we felt connected and I asked him what he thought his purpose in life was. He smiled and said “to enjoy every moment of my life”.

    So simple I thought. And not very easy in today’s intense life rythme where we are so much in our heads. (often regretting the past or worrying about the future).

    I smiled. This is exactly what my mission is in life: to be joyful and to bring more presence, awareness and consciousness into this world. When I got out of the car, I felt full of gratitude.

    In my head I thanked my father. He was my biggest teacher in opening up people’s hearts.

    Real human connecting is about being vulnerable and real. By smiling at people but truly caring and connecting with them. Asking them how they are, what they enjoy doing in life, how many children they have and what their names are…a taxi driver the cleaning lady, your banker, a stranger all of the sudden become friendly and curious because their heart was touched and opened.

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  • Embracing the Wholeness of Life

    I hope you have enjoyed the full moon lunar eclipse and the beautiful blood moon this month?
    What a gorgeous and rare natural phenomena…

    It is the perfect time for all us to re-evaluate where we are in life and what we need to let go off to move into a more awakened and authentic state of mind and heart.

    To shed the old skin just like a snake and show our true beauty from the inside out!

    I have been more silent that usual as I have been going myself through some major transitions of letting go and surrendering, being guided at all times to open my heart and feel the vibration of embracing it all….the good, the bad and the ugly.

    I realized that I never actually internalized the idea of wholeness in its essence.
    I used to go through life with a positive outlook all the time.
    Anything that happened to me was turned into positive, into the light and I was unable to fully receive the wisdom of some of the painful and uncomfortable experiences as they came around.
    Wherever there was a dark patch of negativity, violence, cruelty, jealousy I would sneak away, get away and not look back…my soul wasn’t ready to accept LIFE FULLY and ALL it had to offer.

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  • Why the Pursuit of Happiness is making us miserable and What are you willing to struggle for?

    In our society today there us a whole generation of people thinking that it is not good to have negative emotions, that we should avoid pain and suffering no matter what and try to focus on the positive, on our desires, on our wishes, on becoming better.

    It goes like this: We have to be positive at all times, and if not we will not make it to a happy successful life …because our belief system creates our behavior and our behavior creates outcomes and if those are not positive, what is the point anyway, right?

    The tricky part with this positivity and happy go lucky epidemic is that we put so much pressure on ourselves to be positive all the time, that we don’t know how to deal with and process negative emotions, how to deal with failure, how to be more resilient, how to look at our shadow sides.

    We start blaming ourselves for not being positive, we worry about being worried, we stress about being stressed. And we start thinking we are not good enough, that there is something inherently wrong with us.

    And at the end of it we are unhappy and unfulfilled and try to fill the gap.

    If I only had more financial stability, I would be more happy. If I looked like X, I would be fulfilled. If I was more like Y, I would definitely be more grounded…You get the point.

    We also overcompensate with quick fix solutions and temporary HIGHS…we go have a drink, we eat a bucket of icecream, we buy way too many of those gorgeous tops and shoes and bags we don’t need to impress people we don’t actually like. Sounds familiar?

    Well this is where we need to pause more than ever and ask ourselves what we really care about.

    The Pursuit of Happiness is actually making us miserable, because it lets us focus on our lack, on what we don’t have. 

    Instead of running away from the challenges, numbing the pain and filling the wholes of “this is another thing a need to feel better about myself”, we shall ask ourselves: What are we willing to struggle for? What does our pain actually teach us?

    It is not really new, but here a reminder: The challenges and struggle never really end. No one is immune from stress, difficulties and challenging experiences. We are all faced with moments that bring suffering and pain to our lives and guess what is actually a GOOD THING. Because you will grow and learn (if you choose to) and may be even teach others how to overcome what you went through.

    The question is how do YOU respond in these situations? What do you learn from challenge and adversity? What does success and happiness really mean and can you train yourself to be more resilient?

    So today just a reminder to focus on 1. your values and 2. your struggles.

    Most of what I have learned in my life doesn’t come from my successes, but rather my failures, my dull days, my pains. So I encourage you to at least have a closer look and give it a thought.

    What are you willing to struggle for?

  • The Only thing that needs to be changed is your vibration of LOVE

    We all want to feel fulfilled, happy and aligned with who we are.

    The good thing is that from my experience we don’t need to CHANGE anything or anybody but ourselves, our vibration our level of expansion, our level of LOVE.

    Things will only be different if you feel, think and act in ways that are in alignment with who you are and where you want to go.

    It doesn’t matter where you move to, whom you are with, not even the work you do…it is about what happens inside of you and the way you choose to look at life.

    A quote from Marianne Williamson that has helped me many times when I feel restless and frustrated:

    “Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.”
    Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.”

    My mission in life is it to bring more fulfillment to others through awareness and connection. By learning about myself, expanding who I am, being loving and kind. At the end of the end, this is all that matters. Really.

    Much love and many blessings.

    Nina

  • Heart and Soul-Centered Relationships

     Your relationships only reflect what is inside of you

    While relationships of every kind are the heart and soul of our lives, they can also present us with our greatest challenges.

    Are there times you find your partner’s, mother’s, father’s, children’s, friend’s behavior or choices upsetting and frustrating?

    If you said, “Yes,” would you consider the possibility that these times are reflecting opportunities for healing in your consciousness?

    Big mindset change, right? It is not about THEM, it is all about YOU.

    Stay with me for a moment.

    Your relationship interactions may actually be triggering YOUR unresolved issues so you can be aware of them and heal them!

    The real question is: How can your relationships help you grow on a personal, professional and spiritual level?

    To me, there are 2 fundamental purposes of relationships

    The purpose of sharing and loving, companionship and partnership. The obvious one!

    The catalyzing of each other’s growth and potential through the process of mirroring our unresolved issues to each other. The more tricky one.

    The benefit of intimate relationship is to have your very own live-in healer, costume-designed for you.

    They provide a great opportunity to see clearer what need to be worked on.

    Learning how we can use these challenges as opportunities for growth supports us in realizing true Love and deeper fulfillment within all of our relationships, including the one with ourselves.

    In today’s society, we are very impatient within relationships, especially with our partners.

    This isn’t working, so I will just change partners…

    The problem is that whatever needed to be healed didn’t get a chance to do so, and we fall back into the same patterns and ask ourselves, why do I always attract the needy ones, the broke one’s the selfish ones, a certain businessman type, the wonder-women and so on…

    You get the point? By the way sexual orientation doesn’t matter.

    The funny part is that we actually get attracted to the people we need…

    You might ask yourself:

    Who in their right mind would decide to be with some who triggers all their unresolved issues?

    Well, the ultimate wisdom of creation (who ever is the intelligence behind this) has an answer:

    Let’s invent the phenomena of falling in love to bring those people together and let them figure it all out.

    I am persuaded that our outer reality is just a reflection of what is happening inside of us.

    So next time before getting upset about someone who triggers you, ask yourself the question:

    What in me isn’t full healed yet? What in me needs more awareness? What is the bigger picture here?

    And ultimately. How can I respond with Love and Compassion?

    Life is only testing you, so you can respond differently.

    Remember: “You are never in relationship with anyone except yourself. The experience of the relationship is only going on in one place—inside of you! It’s the same for the other person. Yes, there is interaction, but it’s only reflecting back what’s going on inside of you .Want a better relationship? Create a better relationship inside yourself!” Dr. Ron Hulnick

    Much love and many blessings,

    Nina

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  • Why are you so hard on Yourself?

    Everybody has those voices that make you feel like crap about yourself, sabotage you and telling you like you don’t belong. 

It’s that opinionated, critical, sabotaging voice in your head – the one who fills your mind with big fat lies like these:

    “You’re not pretty, thin, smart, rich (fill in the blank) enough,”
    “You don’t measure up… you are falling behind…”
    “Don’t even try. You’ll fail!”
    Someday thinking: “When you get there you will finally be happy, financially secure, loved, fill in the blank…”
    “You are unlovable, damaged goods, beyond repair.”
    “You’re never going to (fill in the blank) get married, get ahead, reach your goals, make enough money….

    Negative, nasty, judgmental voices that love to get in your head.

    No matter how much money you have, the color of your skin, which culture you are from, especially women have the tendency to beat themselves up for not being what they are supposed to be.

    We so often consciously and unconsciously go into self-bullying and self-abuse mode, that we are too exhausted to really listen to our inner wisdom and see our true POWER!

    After working with many women around the globe I have identified 3 reasons why especially women so often fall into the self-criticism trap.

    1. False Ideals, Expectations & Comparison

    What does it really mean today to be a “good women”?

    Women have officially more freedom, more power, more flexibility…but the problem is our society’s mentality didn’t shift too support women in that way. What happens is that we were thought to listen to conventional wisdom and not to our inner wisdom.

    And the conventional wisdom portrayed in the media, social networks is that:

    You are never ENOUGH…

    To be a “good women” we need to be: a Great mom, a CEO, look like a model, be sexy, always happy and smiling and throw parties while doing charity on the side

    Let’s be honest here: Those goals are not just unattainable and unsustainable, they are completely unrealistic!

    2. FEAR based stories and limiting believes

    We all have these stories that we carry around like a heavy backpack, full of limiting believes, fears and feelings of that prevent us from getting what we want in life.

    I myself had a story for many years of not being good enough, of being unlikeable and so I didn’t take many risks in my life because what other people thought of me really mattered a lot …

    During my career as a professional tennis player, my whole identity became about results, about achievement, about being the best, about proving to myself and all the people around me that I be successful, intelligent and happy.

    Shame, guilt, disappointment, fear, and embarrassment are five super powerful emotions that take us out of our power.

    And when we are in that space, most of our actions come from a Fear based emotion rather then from Love.

    I would urge you to reflect what your story or baggage is? What are the beliefs that are holding you back from being truly yourself?

    3. DOING not BEING

    The third reason is that Feminine power is valued by how much we can DO.

    So many women wake up with a long to DO list and by the end of the day that list just gotten even longer and you have the feeling you are running against time?

    I know I did and today I am inviting you to shift this reality.

    Because really It is not so much about what we DO but who we ARE doing it.

    What is the meaning and purpose of your actions? How can you create an even better place on earth today and contribute to a better place for my family, community and the world?

    Imagine what your life will be like when You STOP Being So Hard On Yourself and START Loving and Empowering Yourself NOW!

    Anything is Possible When Your Inner Critic is silent and Your Inner Wisdom is In Charge!

    This is about turning down the volume of the sabotaging voice and turn up the volume of your Inner wisdom and really connecting with yourself.

    I know that you are making a difference. People’s lives are better because of your presence. What you have already done & who you have already become, has made a difference – for yourself, for what you care about, and who you care for….

    Even if you feel like you aren’t making a difference or like things aren’t shifting as fast as you like.

    Believe in yourself and just BE!

    Many blessings and much love,

    Nina,

  • How to find greater Fulfillment by Accessing your Feminine Strengths

    Dear Friends,

    InsideOut is my newest project that I have been working on for some time now and that I am more and more proud of!

    This is why I am so excited to invite you to the very first InsideOut Life event even before the website is up, before the flyers are out, before we get back from vacation! 🙂

    The topic of our first event is how to:

    Find greater Fulfillment by Accessing your Feminine Strengths

    This evening’s discussion (for maximum 50 women!) will be lead by renowned international speaker and Life coach Felice Dunas Ph.D. who will be flying in from Los Angeles, California for the occasion...She is my dear friend and an AMAZING facilitator.

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