InsideOut Circles by Nina Urman

Life

  • Part Two. Energetic Detox: Environment Cleanse, Digital Detox & Relationship Fasting

    Environment Cleanse

    Everything is energy. Everything is a certain vibration, a frequency. Too often in today’s society, just as in our intestines there is too much garbage, to much stuffed and stiff energy just lying around.

    If you have heard of Marie Kondo’s method, you know what I mean. I usually start with your bathroom.

    All those half used cream and toothpaste tubes, and the shampoo that has been sitting there for a while, so one day you might use it. Believe me, you won’t.

    Think about your closet. What do you wear with joy and excitement and what do you only keep because it was a present from mom or “was really expensive”. Do you really need all this stuff? Go through the draws and do a radical cleansing.

    Sell it, gift it, give it away to people in need. Your wallet, your car, your garage, your cellar – step by step. Believe me, you will feel 20 kg energetically lighter and more energized. Open your window to let fresh air in.

     

    Relationship Fasting

    Now its time to think about not only what ‘s in you and around you but also WITH you. Think about relationships that might need a review.

    Who are the people tat lift you up and give you energy? And are there any vampires around you that suck your energy up and leave you drained and life-less?My grandmother used to say: Some relationships have expiration dates. What are these relationships for you?Consciously choose your interactions and create energetic boundaries.

    Every time I go out of the house I clothe myself in a energetic coat of light.  Just to keep my inner light glowing wherever I am going. You can imagine yourself in a light coat or just visualize a light bulb around you-It’s very helpful.

    However when you feel someone negative in your energetic field that you are in contact, don’t automatically go into protection mode or “run away”. These are actually opportunities to hold your vibration and not let negativity get over and drain you but “make the other person rise” though love.

    Let me explain with one of my favorite authors Thaddeus Golas from his book “The Lazy Man’s guide to enlightenment”

    “if you are faced with such (negative) behavior (from other around you), the remedy is to keep on out-flowing love, to have no resistance in your mind. The lower vibrating person may reach farther and farther to bring you down, but when he finds you will not come down, when he senses that you have no internal resistance to him, he will have to rise to your vibration level to feel stable and comfortable, it is too painful to stay where he is. And he will rise unless of course he goes the other way, and disintegrates from the relationship.

    You are not, however, obliged to wait him out: if you sense that he is not going to do anything but try to bring you down, you are free to effect the disintegration when you choose. In current language, just split. Don’t dwell on it, and don’t feel guilty about it. It’s in the natural order of things.”

    You see it is all about energetic vibrations and we always have free will to hold our own light filled vibration or to “disintegrate”.

    My teacher Sonia always says, it’s good to care, but don’t carry.

     

    Digital Detox

     Last but not least: The Digital Cleanse. As you can imagine I am writing this from a computer, so I am not fully away from the great technologies of this world.:-) However I felt a real difference in leaving my phone in the room and going for long walks and classes without constantly checking my messages, FB or Instagram you name it.

    I feel lighter, more connected and happier. In today’s world, our phones are almost the extension of our arms.

    In Japan, a book came our recently with the title: I wish I was my momy’s cell phone”. It made me think of my own children. This is how they perceive us. This phone in our hands is always with us…so it has to have a tremendous importance, right?

    Well it does have many functions, and yet it often takes us away from the present moment and from what is truly important to us. I encourage you to try out a phone free afternoon and just see how you feel. Can you be without it and without checking on news, sms and social media? How free are you? Find the freedom within and let go of whatever it is that doesn’t serve you.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Cleansing, Detoxing, Letting go – The importance of energetic clearing on all levels

    For some time I have been wanting to bring more awareness to my body, its functioning and the ways I can nourish it in ways of that are energizing and enjoyable.

    After two children my body was sending strong signs of fatigue and as I was running my coaching, facilitation, retreat business on high speed I knew I needed to make sure my batteries are filled with the best possible fuel to be of service to my family and clients. It is all about Energy-management, isn’t? And the body never lies.

    But before letting any fuel in, I was wondering what potentially was blocking my system and what needed to be cleared.

    Today I am writing to you from beautiful German Bavaria where I am spending a week doing a medical health spa retreat around detoxification and cleansing my system on all levels. It’s a subtle, peaceful place surrounded by mountains and silence.The moment I got here I felt an instant energetic boost. The fresh air and the calm are such contrast to our too polluted and fast-pasted cities.

    When I was asked what my intention for this week was I said:

    “It’s the time of clearing everything out that does not serve me and letting in the New and the True.” The doctor smiled. This is exactly what we do here.

    I believe a holistic clearing on many levels simultaneously.

    • Detox and cleansing of the body is the first evident portal.
    • But how about an emotional and mental cleanse?
    • What about your surroundings and energetic garbage in your house?
    • And what about consciously purifying your relationships and interactions with other people?

    It is all interrelated and It is like emptying the dirty trash that has been lying around for a while stinking and creating space for a new fresh breeze of air in the whole house, literarily and metaphorically.

     Your Body

    This is your home, your space. You take your body wherever you go. As a spiritual being you are grounded in a physical body that needs you care and attention. In Germany they say: Home isn’t only a space. It’s a feeling. So how do you feel in your physical body?

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  • Remembering the Essence of who YOU are

    A couple of weeks ago when I was travelling to India for a wedding I had a lovely conversation with the taxi driver.

    I love connecting with the locals and ask them about what moves them, what brings them joy and what they feel holds them back. In about 5 minutes we felt connected and I asked him what he thought his purpose in life was. He smiled and said “to enjoy every moment of my life”.

    So simple I thought. And not very easy in today’s intense life rythme where we are so much in our heads. (often regretting the past or worrying about the future).

    I smiled. This is exactly what my mission is in life: to be joyful and to bring more presence, awareness and consciousness into this world. When I got out of the car, I felt full of gratitude.

    In my head I thanked my father. He was my biggest teacher in opening up people’s hearts.

    Real human connecting is about being vulnerable and real. By smiling at people but truly caring and connecting with them. Asking them how they are, what they enjoy doing in life, how many children they have and what their names are…a taxi driver the cleaning lady, your banker, a stranger all of the sudden become friendly and curious because their heart was touched and opened.

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  • Embracing the Wholeness of Life

    I hope you have enjoyed the full moon lunar eclipse and the beautiful blood moon this month?
    What a gorgeous and rare natural phenomena…

    It is the perfect time for all us to re-evaluate where we are in life and what we need to let go off to move into a more awakened and authentic state of mind and heart.

    To shed the old skin just like a snake and show our true beauty from the inside out!

    I have been more silent that usual as I have been going myself through some major transitions of letting go and surrendering, being guided at all times to open my heart and feel the vibration of embracing it all….the good, the bad and the ugly.

    I realized that I never actually internalized the idea of wholeness in its essence.
    I used to go through life with a positive outlook all the time.
    Anything that happened to me was turned into positive, into the light and I was unable to fully receive the wisdom of some of the painful and uncomfortable experiences as they came around.
    Wherever there was a dark patch of negativity, violence, cruelty, jealousy I would sneak away, get away and not look back…my soul wasn’t ready to accept LIFE FULLY and ALL it had to offer.

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  • Why the Pursuit of Happiness is making us miserable and What are you willing to struggle for?

    In our society today there us a whole generation of people thinking that it is not good to have negative emotions, that we should avoid pain and suffering no matter what and try to focus on the positive, on our desires, on our wishes, on becoming better.

    It goes like this: We have to be positive at all times, and if not we will not make it to a happy successful life …because our belief system creates our behavior and our behavior creates outcomes and if those are not positive, what is the point anyway, right?

    The tricky part with this positivity and happy go lucky epidemic is that we put so much pressure on ourselves to be positive all the time, that we don’t know how to deal with and process negative emotions, how to deal with failure, how to be more resilient, how to look at our shadow sides.

    We start blaming ourselves for not being positive, we worry about being worried, we stress about being stressed. And we start thinking we are not good enough, that there is something inherently wrong with us.

    And at the end of it we are unhappy and unfulfilled and try to fill the gap.

    If I only had more financial stability, I would be more happy. If I looked like X, I would be fulfilled. If I was more like Y, I would definitely be more grounded…You get the point.

    We also overcompensate with quick fix solutions and temporary HIGHS…we go have a drink, we eat a bucket of icecream, we buy way too many of those gorgeous tops and shoes and bags we don’t need to impress people we don’t actually like. Sounds familiar?

    Well this is where we need to pause more than ever and ask ourselves what we really care about.

    The Pursuit of Happiness is actually making us miserable, because it lets us focus on our lack, on what we don’t have. 

    Instead of running away from the challenges, numbing the pain and filling the wholes of “this is another thing a need to feel better about myself”, we shall ask ourselves: What are we willing to struggle for? What does our pain actually teach us?

    It is not really new, but here a reminder: The challenges and struggle never really end. No one is immune from stress, difficulties and challenging experiences. We are all faced with moments that bring suffering and pain to our lives and guess what is actually a GOOD THING. Because you will grow and learn (if you choose to) and may be even teach others how to overcome what you went through.

    The question is how do YOU respond in these situations? What do you learn from challenge and adversity? What does success and happiness really mean and can you train yourself to be more resilient?

    So today just a reminder to focus on 1. your values and 2. your struggles.

    Most of what I have learned in my life doesn’t come from my successes, but rather my failures, my dull days, my pains. So I encourage you to at least have a closer look and give it a thought.

    What are you willing to struggle for?

  • The Only thing that needs to be changed is your vibration of LOVE

    We all want to feel fulfilled, happy and aligned with who we are.

    The good thing is that from my experience we don’t need to CHANGE anything or anybody but ourselves, our vibration our level of expansion, our level of LOVE.

    Things will only be different if you feel, think and act in ways that are in alignment with who you are and where you want to go.

    It doesn’t matter where you move to, whom you are with, not even the work you do…it is about what happens inside of you and the way you choose to look at life.

    A quote from Marianne Williamson that has helped me many times when I feel restless and frustrated:

    “Ego says, “Once everything falls into place, I’ll feel peace.”
    Spirit says, “Find your peace, and then everything will fall into place.”

    My mission in life is it to bring more fulfillment to others through awareness and connection. By learning about myself, expanding who I am, being loving and kind. At the end of the end, this is all that matters. Really.

    Much love and many blessings.

    Nina

  • Heart and Soul-Centered Relationships

     Your relationships only reflect what is inside of you

    While relationships of every kind are the heart and soul of our lives, they can also present us with our greatest challenges.

    Are there times you find your partner’s, mother’s, father’s, children’s, friend’s behavior or choices upsetting and frustrating?

    If you said, “Yes,” would you consider the possibility that these times are reflecting opportunities for healing in your consciousness?

    Big mindset change, right? It is not about THEM, it is all about YOU.

    Stay with me for a moment.

    Your relationship interactions may actually be triggering YOUR unresolved issues so you can be aware of them and heal them!

    The real question is: How can your relationships help you grow on a personal, professional and spiritual level?

    To me, there are 2 fundamental purposes of relationships

    The purpose of sharing and loving, companionship and partnership. The obvious one!

    The catalyzing of each other’s growth and potential through the process of mirroring our unresolved issues to each other. The more tricky one.

    The benefit of intimate relationship is to have your very own live-in healer, costume-designed for you.

    They provide a great opportunity to see clearer what need to be worked on.

    Learning how we can use these challenges as opportunities for growth supports us in realizing true Love and deeper fulfillment within all of our relationships, including the one with ourselves.

    In today’s society, we are very impatient within relationships, especially with our partners.

    This isn’t working, so I will just change partners…

    The problem is that whatever needed to be healed didn’t get a chance to do so, and we fall back into the same patterns and ask ourselves, why do I always attract the needy ones, the broke one’s the selfish ones, a certain businessman type, the wonder-women and so on…

    You get the point? By the way sexual orientation doesn’t matter.

    The funny part is that we actually get attracted to the people we need…

    You might ask yourself:

    Who in their right mind would decide to be with some who triggers all their unresolved issues?

    Well, the ultimate wisdom of creation (who ever is the intelligence behind this) has an answer:

    Let’s invent the phenomena of falling in love to bring those people together and let them figure it all out.

    I am persuaded that our outer reality is just a reflection of what is happening inside of us.

    So next time before getting upset about someone who triggers you, ask yourself the question:

    What in me isn’t full healed yet? What in me needs more awareness? What is the bigger picture here?

    And ultimately. How can I respond with Love and Compassion?

    Life is only testing you, so you can respond differently.

    Remember: “You are never in relationship with anyone except yourself. The experience of the relationship is only going on in one place—inside of you! It’s the same for the other person. Yes, there is interaction, but it’s only reflecting back what’s going on inside of you .Want a better relationship? Create a better relationship inside yourself!” Dr. Ron Hulnick

    Much love and many blessings,

    Nina

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  • The miracle of Co-creation

    Today a more personal note from me as I am in my last weeks or even days of my second pregnancy…

    Wow. What a blessing.

    Being in this beautiful state of creation mode makes you see and feel things completely differently.

    You realize how much is actually NOT in your control, and how important it is align with your inner BEING instead of constantly DO, DO, DO.

    I am the “best host” for this gorgeous baby inside of me, but the process of creation is led by something bigger than me…call it nature, call in God, call it the universe.

    Yes, there was some action my husband and I had to take, but eventually it is not up to us to create this human being. All I have to “Do” now is to “BE”, to nurture myself and stay healthy & fit.

    I find this a good metaphor for life in general. We sometimes want to MAKE things happen no matter what. We push, we control, we struggle for results…forgetting that our whole reason being here is to learn, evolve and enjoy life… The rest will take care of itself.

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  • How to Focus and set clear Intentions and Goals in your Life and Business? The 4 Step “Focus-System”

    Many clients I work with often have a hard time setting clear goals and intentions for their projects and following through.

    So today I would like to draw your attention to the word “Focus”, because one of the challenges in today’s busy life is that there is a ton of information-overflow and there are so many things that are pulling our attention that we wonder:

    “Should I be doing this? Should I be doing that? Should this other thing be taking my attention?”

    And the only way to focus your attention is to focus on setting a very specific, tangible intention around your needs and desires and how you schedule yourself and how you prioritize your day, consistently.

    1. CLEAR INTENTIONS

    I personally like to set 30 day Intentions.

    I tend to like to have a short time period to do something and have something to sort of review and reflect on.

    So what I want encourage you to do, is ask yourself following questions:

    • What is my Intention for February?
    • In my life, in my relationship in my business…whatever is the most important area for you in life at the moment?

    Now you might ask yourself: “Well, what’s the point? When I don’t hit my “goal”, I’m just frustrated and physically depressed.

    My answer is: It’s actually an unreasonable expectation to expect that every time you set an intention or goal you’ll hit it.

    The purpose of the intention is not if you don’t hit it, you’re a bad person, you suck and you might as well give up.

    • The purpose of the intention from within is the stretch it requires.
    • The purpose of the intention is that it’s going to set you into motion and taking actions differently than you would have otherwise.
    • The purpose is that you set the intention and it directs your action and your Focus.

    You’ll be doing things differently than if you had not set an intention at all. That is the value.

    There have been many goals and intentions that I have set, whether they are action or financial based, or both, that I didn’t hit.

    But, I did things differently than I otherwise would have, and that was the point anyway.

     

    1. SIMPLICITY
    • What are the simplest steps you can take to get to that goal?
    • What are all the things that you can push out of your consciousness and out of your mind so you don’t need to deal with them?
    • And what are the simple things you can deal with that will have an impact for your goal?

    This is going to be a constant challenge in building your business and or managing your life, because you’re a creative, curious person, and you’re going to want learn and do everything.

    And, I can assure you that over the course of your career, there’s time to learn and do a whole lot. But right now, you want to focus on these simplest steps to get to your goal.

     

    1. WILLINGNESS TO TRY NEW THINGS

    The third component of this “Focus-System” that I’m sharing with you is the willingness to try new things. And what that means really, is you’re willingness to be uncomfortable.

    If you’re doing something new, it is uncomfortable. Why is that?

    Because your critter brain, your primal brain, the job of your primal brain is to make sure that nothing changes, and everything stays the same because it’s trying to ensure your survival.

    So that’s why you experience discomfort, and fear, and worry, and overwhelm, confusion, and doubt.

    And if you can just accept that as a fact, instead of ever expecting not to feel that way, eventually the discomfort will just be less and less and less.

    Many people have this expectation that it should just feel good all the time. It’s just not going to. It’s not true.

    So the third piece is getting comfortable with discomfort, and just accepting that it’s going to be uncomfortable until it isn’t.

     

     

    1. AUDITING & RESET ACTION STEPS

    The fourth component of the “Focus-System” is auditing and reset.

    So you tried different strategies, and what you always want do is go back and audit. You are looking back at what you tried, celebrating what went well, and then asking yourself:

    • Where is the opportunity for improvement? Which piece of the formula needs to be shifted?
    • What are the new action steps based on what I’ve learned to get me to that original intention?

     

    I’d love to hear if these phases resonate with you and which one you feel you are currently in!? So please comment below!:-)

    Much love,

    Nina

  • How to accept where you are and move forward?

    Hey everyone! I hope you are having a great start into the New Year of 2016! It has been a very busy month for me of traveling, learning and growing. I have had incredible conversations, forum meetings, retreats and connected with some amazing teachers and mentors.

    After witnessing so many on the path of self-discovery and transformation, I have noticed there are developmental phases to personal growth that I would like to share with you.

    The first phase is Self-Awareness. 

    Look around and ask yourself and ask: what role am I playing in the creation of my conditions, of my life?

    Being aware of one’s responsibility in the creation of ones circumstances is key.

    When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

    We begin to learn that the results in our life are not just random.

    This is when new tools, teachers and experiences come into our life that help us wake up. We begin to start connecting the dots of our own life.

    Positive usually attracts more positive. The energy you send out, returns to you. You listen closer to your intuition, to your inner voice and start noticing what you attract and how.

    Plant your seeds: “Wouldn’t it be nice…? ” to be more patient, to move to a different country, to live a more simple lifestyle, to work less and love more?

    Just sending out that energy with no attachment to outcome will create a different energetic vibration.

    Mantras like:

    • Things always work our for me
    • Things are always working out for me
    • Things will come around
    • The situation will work out
    • This is happening for a reason. What is the gift of this situation?

    can be helpful in the self-awareness process.

    We also begin to understand that all of us on this human journey are here to learn, grow and remember who we really are. This is a time full of “ah-ha” moments – some which are exciting and some which are downright surprising.

     

    1. The second step is Integration

    Once we are aware of our own responsibility in the creation of our circumstances, we can move into the stage Integration.

    This is the longest phase because this is when we shift from knowing things to actually changing things. If you feel like you have a lot of information but things in your life are not shifting, welcome to the integration phase…there is some work for you to do.

    When in comes to transformation awareness is not enough…you have to let go of your limiting beliefs and change your behaviors.

    One of the most powerful ways to heal and break a pattern is when we are experiencing it.

    This is a time when we drop our story and upgrade our programming. It is a time when we do the courageous emotional work to heal old issues so they no longer define us. It is a time when we take all the tools we have learned and actually use them, consistently!

    Life will be constantly challenge you in this phase to see how you will respond differently and how you alter your perspective and move toward Self-acceptance.